THE ALPHA WIDOW

 

The first time I heard the word Alpha widow was from a random guy in the red pill space, but I never cared to ask because I assumed it was probably a term for a single woman who's an Alpha or a badass woman who lost her husband in a war or something. Trust me I had never been so wrong. The word 'Alpha widow' does not mean a widow who's Alpha or whatever it is you're thinking of now. There are dozens of explanations for this topic on the internet so in case this isn't so detailed you could explore other sites. However, I'll do my best to break down the Alpha widow complex below.

WHO IS AN ALPHA WIDOW?

An Alpha widow refers to any woman who has, at least once experienced an Alpha male or higher value man in her life. In other words, an Alpha widow is any woman who has engaged in a relationship with a man that is undoubtedly her best. 

This is the man she will continuously think about in every other relationship she enters. She creates standards that must match or live up to "her best". 

If you've heard the statement "virgins never forget their first" well this is sort of that kind of thing. The modern-day woman's sexual partners have increased greatly, so she is more likely to get less attached to every experience. She ranks her partners from the very best to the very worst and the more she has the less she remembers. However, it is the ultimate Alpha that she will never forget. If she isn't with him, well... She's an Alpha widow. 

Judging by virtue, any woman who has had more than one sexual partner is likely to be an Alpha widow. 

Alpha Widows are not so attractive, which is why they usually get stuck in the dating pool for not being able to readjust their expectations and entitlement. Because deep down she's hoping that she will discover the Alpha male who can rock her world. 

So basically they are called widows because they are incapable of moving on from the high-value man who once snatched their soul 

WHY ASSOCIATION WITH ALPHA WIDOWS IS A TERRIBLE IDEA 

There's absolutely no issue with having casual sex with the Alpha widow, however, once you commit to her, let's just say if you're below a 9 in the Sexual market value(SMV) Scale, she'll eat you alive. 

To commit to an Alpha widow is accepting that you'll always be 2nd best or 3rd best or probably even 100th best depending on how she's been slutting around. 

To live in hell might be preferable to committing to the Alpha widow. You will be highly incapable of getting the best out of her. She will disrespect you at the slightest opportunity, she will belittle you and degrade you constantly and remind you how weak you are for not being as good as Prince or Jackson. 

The strategy of the Alpha widow is to jump from one relationship to another hoping to rekindle the spark and mark that was left by the high-value man. 

There's a very high possibility that you will come across or even date one Alpha widow in your life as you swim through the dating pool. If you are average and not knowledgeable about who an Alpha widow is or are incapable of spotting one. Chances are you'll be left miserable and wondering why you could never satisfy your woman. You will be stuck in a loop of trying to prove yourself to her, all to no avail. 

"Without the knowledge and awareness, you might end up in a competitive state for a lifetime, fiercely keeping up with her expectations and her ex’s ghost." 

                        - BUNCH OF WISDOM 

TRAITS OF AN ALPHA WIDOW 

1. SATISFACTION WITH YOU IS IMPOSSIBLE

Alpha widows set standards that they are accustomed to, these standards and rules are things that she will never compromise. 

This means that if you choose to commit to an Alpha widow, you must meet up to her standards or she will never regard your image. She will grow dissatisfied when you are incapable of measuring up. 

She'll remind you of how boring you are and how she needs excitement in her life. 

The funniest part of all this; is that she might not be consciously aware of the reasons as to why she treats you like a piece of dog poop(see, I could have said sh*t but I said poop, I'm improving, mom would be proud). 

2. COMPARISONS TO HER EX OR EXES

This is the most noticeable trait in the Alpha widow circle. She will consistently compare you to her ex(s) 

The moment she begins to compare you with her ex, it is a clear sign that you are not the one she wants to be with. You are simply there to fill up a gap. You must understand that the continuous comparisons are an indication that she is still very much still emotionally attached to her ex.

Trying to talk her out of this will be futile. You must understand that you cannot negotiate with her emotions. 

"Genuine desire cannot be negotiated" 

        - Rollo Tomassi 

The truth is when it comes to women generally, their emotions are their mode of reason. Trying to reason with an Alpha widow using logic will be futile. She might agree with you at that moment (very unlikely) but in the long run, her emotions govern her actions. 

Except you are ready to mirror her past experiences and probably do better, you definitely don't stand a chance. 

3. SHE STILL SEEKS HER EX FOR EMOTIONAL SUPPORT 

There should never be a reason why your girl should run to another man when she needs support emotionally but this is simply a norm with Alpha widows. 

Her emotional attachment to him means that she will still seek refuge in him. 

Many guys excuse this behavior as she will use the "it's no big deal" card. She will come up with the most ridiculous excuses just to meet or speak with him. 

Once you accept her excuses, well, let's just say things will only get really rough from there. 

Any woman who is over her ex will find reasons to avoid him not constantly meet up with him for silly reasons. 

4. SHE IS UNABLE TO LET GO OF ITEMS THAT BELONG TO HER EX

The moment you confront her about why her ex's items are still with her, she will do what most women do at this stage, blame you. She will use basic manipulation to spin the situation around by calling you insecure. 

If you are a blue pill beta, you will fall for this trick and start rendering Apologies. This is one of the easiest signs to spot with the Alpha widow. 

These items will include pictures, clothes random gifts he got her, etc. 

5. SEXUAL FRUSTRATION

Yes, this is the part you must have been expecting. When men don't do so great in bed trust me he usually knows. If he seems like he's oblivious trust me, he either doesn't just give a fuck or he's pretending not to notice. 

The Alpha widow does not hold back on how disappointing the sex with you is. She might not always be vocal about it but her eyes will fade away with disappointment. 

Prior to what you might think, this isn't one of the obvious signs as a lot of women are great at pretending the sex was good especially when she needs something from you. 

If you're unable to fuck the Alpha widow and drive her as crazy as her ex did, chances are that she will cheat on you regularly. Either with her ex or someone better than you at least. 

HOW TO HANDLE AN ALPHA WIDOW 

Once you are capable of spotting an Alpha widow, what you do with this entire information is left to you. 

Like I said earlier, having casual sex with an Alpha widow is not a problem but committing to them is where you dig your own early grave. 

You should never be with a woman who only appreciates you a little. You should never be with a woman who does not want you entirely but only views you as the sucker dumb enough to enter her space. 

For long term relationships, committing to an Alpha widow is the greatest mistake you can make because you will always be in the shadow of her ex-lover(s). 

If you are a high-value man, you will understand that Alpha widows are never worth the stress when they are countless women willing to worship you. 

But if eventually, you decide to commit to an Alpha widow you must strive to be better than the competition. If he was a 9 on the Sexual Market Value (SMV) you must be a 10. This is the only way you'll conquer her emotional attachment to her ex. 

If you want to eliminate the other competitors, you must build an extremely strong frame. Read my post on how to build a strong frame here. 

"When you’re a rare high-value man who’s self-sufficient enough to not need any woman and sexually attractive enough to have any woman, the woman you choose is always going to be on her best behavior — pleasing you to keep you for as long as possible." 

                - Bunch of Wisdom 

                          - WRITTEN BY PRINCE M.C